Questions a staunch evangelical would ask Jesus about his time with the “least of these”

These are questions I sense a staunch modern-day evangelical church goer would ask Jesus after he had dinner and hung out with the outcasts of society.

Dear Jesus, when you had dinner with the lepers, the tax collectors and the homeless, what did you do?

Did you say a proper prayer and fold your hands before dinner?…did everyone follow you on prayer like they’re supposed to?

Did you hear people say bad swear words at the dinner table? Did you look at them in a scornful way to make sure they knew they should never have said those words? If they take your Father’s name in vain, did you reprimand them immediately?

You knew all their sins they committed in their entire lives. Did you call them out on their unconfessed sins?

Did you tell the woman who is cheating on her husband that she’s going to hell if she did not obey and repent?

Did you tell the tax collector to give money back that he stole?

Did you tell the married women to be submissive to their husbands?

Did you tell the older men to stop having sex with underage young men? After all that was an accepted cultural practice in Rome and other places.

If anyone burped, did you say to them “excuse you”.

If someone sneezed did you say “God bless you”?

Did you tell the gay people that they had to turn from their lifestyle otherwise they would be going to hell? If they did not turn from their sinful lifestyle, did you send them out of the dinner meeting away from your presence like we do in our church?

Did you tell the eunuch that one cannot be transgender and Christian? Did you demand they stop their herbal hormone supplements? Did you tell them it’s just a phase? Did you cast the demons out of them?

Did you make sure to let the women do the work cleaning up the table and the dishes after dinner?

Did you make sure the kids only spoke if spoken to first?

Did you bother healing anyone if they do not tithe to their church?

Did you leave a tip of half a fake $20 bill along with  a prayer card?

When you went to the public restroom, did you inspect the eunuch’s private parts to make sure their genitals match the proper bathroom?

When you ate with the homeless veteran, did you share Bible verses with him and tell him “you just need more faith”?

When you went to the market, did you demand a discount for your evening’s food because you knew the owner and he’s Christian?

After dinner, did you have a Bible study, but only using the original KJV?

The American church has a huge problem, lack of honesty.

Definition of honest: free of deceit and untruthfulness; sincere.

Therein exists the problem of a large percentage of church congregations across our land.

The American church at large would rather that gay or transgender people never be honest about themselves so they would never come out. That it would be better if they continue to be dishonest about who they are, hide it away from the rest of the congregation.

If the church allowed them to be honest that means many people might leave their church, thus the tithing would go down. Losing money is not tolerable.

It’s better to keep people in a painful, dishonest state so the church can keep the money flowing in. This is not WWJD. But that’s what you demand.

The bible did not contain the word “homosexuality” until 1946. Changing the meanings of words in the bible is not allowed of course, except for you.  You’re special evidently. All so you can keep your dishonest campaign against gay people going full steam ahead.

The original word in Romans 1:27 was pederasty, where we get the word pedophile. Homosexuality does not mean pedophile. But to your dishonest and deceitful teaching to your flock, it does. Preachers are not diving into the history of the sacred text, instead they lazily take the English versions at face value and continue the cultural demonization of gay and transgender people. So people leave your services thinking that gay people are the same as pedophiles and parrot your words as if you knew the only anointed view of God Almighty.

After all, you were the ones who possess the theology degrees, the shiny plaques proudly on display in your offices, so you ought to know the Bible better than anyone. Including the radically changed verses in the 20th century. After all, people go to you as an authority for all things, so whatever you say goes, including whatever the political winds of the day happen to be. Yet you know darn well Jesus never played into any of those political winds in his time, so why are you?

Preaching corrupted gospel to keep the flames of the faux culture wars raging makes you feel good, makes you feel patriotic, makes you feel like you’re exercising that doctorate degree in theology with great aplomb.

You kick out gay and transgender folks out of your churches because to you it’s the right thing to do. Your theology school crony feel the same. They understand the same corrupted gospel regarding gay and trans people as you. It makes you feel safe alongside your peers who have the same theology degrees on the walls to show them the door. No pressure for you to have your social circles challenged if you kick out those Jesus would spend time with.

Really, kicking them out of your congregation is more for your comfort than for the heart and soul of the person you’re telling to “leave now, you’re no longer welcome here”.  That is, if you actually tell them. Often times, the pastor instructs subordinates to do his dirty work.  How convenient.

But what about the hurting, needing soul you just kicked out?  Irrelevant to you as you shun it off as “they need to stop their sin”.  Again, not WWJD.

During your coffee times together with your preacher cronies you tell about how you “had to kick out a delusional man (trans woman) from the church” because “he did not turn from his sinful ways”. That sells in your voting-for-Trump-after-you-said-you-would-NEVER-vote-for-Trump-circles, but it’s dishonest, Jesus would never do this. It’s on the wrong side of salvation, its on the wrong side of Jesus’ love and it’s on the wrong side of history. But you continue anyway thinking you are doing God’s work.

You’re not.

You are the ones kicking gay and trans gender people out of your churches, not Jesus. Jesus sat down and spent time with them, you’re not.  You’re kicking them to the curb so you don’t have to sup with these “vile sinners” any longer.

You’re doing the work to make yourself be comfortable in your system and your social circles. It’s all about you. That’s horribly dishonest to the hurting person you released from your church.

And God forbid they were part of your small groups. They would be put on the hot seat and told they would have to “give up their sin because they were going to hell”. They would be prayed over many times even though they can never change. Because you can’t change a gay or transgender person.

God’s business is changing hearts, not biology. You’ve made your business to make people conform to your view of God’s text.  Again, dishonest to the very purpose of Jesus’ church.

You refuse to listen to their hearts, only judge them by their willingness to conform or be cast out of your country club Sunday gathering. That’s dishonest of you in light of your mission to be a representative of Jesus as Jesus always placed the heart of the person before anything else. But you don’t with their hearts. You reject them instead.

You reject them when they needed you most. Exactly the opposite of what Jesus would do.

So as you stand in front of your Sunday morning meetings and Wednesday night Bible studies preaching falsely about gay and transgender people, berating them as following an agenda and telling your congregation if they don’t “give up their lifestyle”, remember you are being highly dishonest. You are using them as political pawns in a chess game you have never been asked to be the King or Queen of.

The only agenda that is being followed is that of the church’s dishonesty with handling situations of gay and transgender people sitting in it’s chairs. “Conform to our demands or be cast out” is not Jesus’ way, but it’s the way of so very many church institutions.

You’re doing exactly the opposite of Jesus would do. He placed loving them in front of the system-based conformity.

I must ask preacher, why is your dishonest system of demand conformity so much better than the grace covenant of Jesus?

And you wonder why fewer people are attending your services every year, you are not free of deceit and untruthfulness. 

Setting up an iPhone leads to a tragic discovery

Yesterday I setup a used iPhone to make sure it all works properly. I tested things by opening up the Podcast app, which syncs podcasts across Apple devices, and within seconds I hear “Hi, I’m Debi Jackson…”.

I quizzically looked at the phone and asked myself as if I was in some sort of Rod Serling “Twilight Zone” episode: Why is Debi talking to me? I had to do a triple take.

After a couple seconds of pondering if I was indeed in a “Twilight Zone”, it occurred to me…”Oh yeah!”, it finally clicked in my brain, “her podcast was the most recent, so the Podcast app downloaded and started playing it”.

Whew! Well that was a bit surreal. Rod Serling wasn’t there either 🙂

But contained inside Debi’s latest podcast, Episode 7 How to Create a Trans-Inclusive School, was a depressing statistic: in trans youth in a non-supported environment report a 80% suicide ideation rate, and a 57% suicide attempt rate.

Conversely, trans youth in a supported environment? 4% suicide ideation rate.

57% vs 4%

If there is one statistic that defines the “Us vs. Them” mindset in this country, there it is.

The lesson is clear: support your trans kids.  They will live and thrive.  If you don’t, there’s a greater than 1 in 2 chance they will kill themselves.

The tragedy in the numbers is that the side that claims to be pro-life is the one causing the 57% number to be so high.  Irony?  A bitter one for sure.

Think about that, society at large that falsely believes that trans people are mentally ill teaches us to tell trans kids “they are too young to understand who they are” and society at large tells the kids to “deal with it”. Yeah, they deal with it by ending their lives.

Yes, they try to kill themselves.

The erasing of transgender people is part of the staunch-conservative platform in churches and in the GOP in 2016.  Yes, the GOP. It’s now the official platform of the Republican party.  Far too many religious institutions are the vocal arm for their anti-pro-life work yet they ignore the 57% number in favor of “All you need is Jesus!”

I already have Jesus, but Jesus doesn’t change the brains of transgender people to match your churchy, societal expectations.  Jesus doesn’t cure anyone’s ALS either.  Oh, and Jesus isn’t curing epilepsy.  Nope.

Jesus changes our hearts and minds.

The demand for physical manifestations that conform to church demands for physical appearance don’t happen.  That’s why too many church goers can’t see Jesus working in His people because they expect His works to be familiar to them, to be delivered in vessels of comfort.  He doesn’t work that way.  After all, Jesus was expected to ride into Jerusalem on a golden chariot yet appeared on a lowly donkey.

Tragically, their mind is made up that being transgender is a mental illness thus they won’t let Jesus change it.  Is 57% OK with you?  Would you like that number to continue to be astronomically high?  Then keep pressing for your party’s false platform against LGBT folks.

Tragically for all of us, the GOP no longer the fiscal backbone party of the USA, it’s a party filled with complaining about everything that happens.  Whining like a 3 year-old who can’t have a cookie about a “evil LGBT agenda”, “men using women’s bathrooms” and half-a-century of failed theory has given us “You are mentally disturbed! You need Jesus not hormones!”

The millions echoing statements such as these on social media and real life show that those who believe in these false tenants of the GOP platform have a lot to learn.  They need to be consistent in their views as well.

First off, there is no LGBT agenda, we’re just trying to live without being harassed, without losing our places of residence and without losing our jobs.  And for kids, they’re trying to be the best they can be in the awkward formative school years.  That’s not too much to ask, is it?

If we are to be productive citizens who pay our taxes and promote to the overall economic health of the community, why would you be against us doing these things?  After all, these are core components of economic freedom and prosperity.  Answer this please.  We are waiting.

Also, if people claim to be truly pro-life, why are they so wholly against transgender people? …so much so, they love them all to an early death? Does the staunch right not see the difference between the 57% down to 4% number?  Does that not mean anything to this voting block made mostly of self-proclaimed Christians?  Why do they continue to wish-away trans people in favor of conversion therapy (pray-the-gay-away therapy) that only leads to HIGHER suicide rates?  You need to do your homework here so you can be consistent in your views.  

But alas, their homework stops with the fully discredited Dr Paul McHugh and his failed gender department at John Hopkins University.  They consider his writings as gospel, as the 67th book of the bible, yet he has been proven 100% wrong…the wrong side of history, the wrong of helping people, and the wrong side of God’s salvation.  Completely anti-pro-life as they come, McHugh has brought much pain and suffering to his patients.  A ‘Jack Kevorkian for the mind’ is a more apt description of this man.

Not sure why the staunch right considers themselves pro-life, that is absurd.  They’re really pro-birth, then if others don’t fit your viewpoints, you are pro-eradication of them and their lives.  Again, you need to learn consistency and learn to value life, not just birth.

57% vs 4%

Thank you to Apple for auto-playing Debi’s podcast, it was enlightening to say the least. (Please listen to it, the link below) I just hope some of that light permeates the hearts and minds of those who falsely insist the “evil LGBT agenda” is out to get them.

What’s out to get them is their own lack of knowledge, it’s a weapon that is being used against their own hearts and minds, completely against Jesus.  All in the name of pandering for their votes.

Much of the 2016 GOP and a majority of the plaques that proclaim “doctorate of theology” hanging on the walls of the offices of preachers across this land are choosing to bolster the 57% suicide attempt rate and made a political platform that will bump up that number.

Overall, it’s largely the ones without the doctorate degrees in theology who are making the 4% a reality, and attempting to make it lower.

Clearly it’s the preachers with theology degrees who claim to be staunchly pro-life that are teaching their congregations and politicians to be pro-death.  Oh the irony.




Trans-Parenting Podcast Episode 7: How to Create a Trans-Inclusive School


When Pastors and Preachers Place God Last In Their Personal Trinity, 2016 Is What Happens

A disturbing trend has been happening for quite some time and with the 2016 election season, it has now reached a feverish pitch.  That trend is pastors and preachers putting God dead last in their personal holy trinity.

Oh I know, it’s supposed to be Father, Son, Holy Spirit. The Bible says that, these preachers say that, but that’s not what’s happening in real life.

Interpretation of the bible is their real God at the top of their trinity.  Their understanding of God is finite, yet they claim to know much about topics they never encountered before…such as transgender people.  Or gay Christians.  Rather than diving deep to understand the issue from one of experience and grace, these preachers and pastors filter what they know and the political winds of the day through their own minds.  And whatever verdict they reach is God’s truth.

For example, they have said that living the transgender lifestyle is incompatible with God’s teachings.

Really? Where does it say that in the bible?

It doesn’t.

They quickly point to Deuteronomy 22:5, the “crossdressing” verse, as ample evidence for their finite conclusions to become law over others.

Problem is, that rule was made 3,000 years ago so men wouldn’t dress as women to get out of serving in the theater of battle.  Or for looking for illicit sex by posing as females of the night.  This law has nothing to do with honest hearts and people, aka, transgender people.

Russell Moore of the Southern Baptist Convention wrote a 7 page “John or Joan” article in 2009.  Sadly it was highly influential on SBC churches on how to handle transgender people when they come out: make them stop taking hormones, show them that God’s “real plan” for John was really John all along and that through prayer and repentance, God can make John a whole John again!

This article Russ pens shows how woefully out of touch he is with the reality of trans folks.  Transgender people have amazing results with hormones clearing up lifelong depression, anxiety, emotional numbness, etc.  According to Mr Moore’s plan, he insists that John’s hormones be immediately stopped so that the person reverts back to their depressed, anxiety-ridden state of being where he consumes mass quantities of alcohol to kill the pain.  This only shows how Moore doesn’t understand the transgender condition whatsoever.  But those in such churches, they insist that God only made man or woman (Genesis 1:27).  No, read that again, God made man AND woman.  And with the trillions of transactions that happen in the womb, often times things don’t go as you expect them to turn out. This is a system (the SBC) placing it’s views and replacing God’s views on the subject.  SBC, you’re not God.

What Mr. Moore fails to understand is what we have told you all along, we are different.  No document you create will change the biology in our brains.

No amount of prayer fixes transgender people.


Not even prayers or burnt sacrifices offered to God by Dr. Paul McHugh himself will cure a single transgender person.

Self-acceptance is what saves us from the suicide attempts.  Having community that loves us and wants to see us flourish is the other key factor.  Since you insist on taking away the hormones that help us tremendously and take away the community of church from us as most times we are kicked to the curb as you and all the pastors downstream insist trans people change or get out of their churches, you offer us no other choice: go out into the world alone and emotionally broken.

The exact opposite of what Jesus would have done.

You see, “living the transgender lifestyle”, as you say, isn’t incompatible with God’s teachings.  No, your Pharisee, separatist, closed-hearted ways are incompatible with the saving grace of Jesus Christ. He saves us no matter what we look like.

Then, the topic will change and will insist, that gay people cannot enter into heaven unless they stop being gay.  God can and will deliver them from being homosexual!

This too…really?  Where in the bible does it say that?

They reply: It’s in 1 Corinthians 6:9 and Romans 1:27, it clearly states that the Lord sayeth that homosexuals can’t entereth the kingdom of God!

It doesn’t. Again.

Oh it does in English translations from King James and newer, but a more involved study of this topic when looking at the original words of the bible and cultures that the author Paul was looking at paint an entirely different picture…

In the first chapter of Romans the word homosexuality was never there until 1946. We are taught to never change words of the bible but for this word, it was given an obvious exemption to this rule.  The root word was pederasty or where we get pedophile from, not gay or homosexual. The reason why pedophile was there is because in the Roman culture it was normalized for men to have sex with young boys. It was very usual and customary thing. Something our culture does not do at all obviously. The word was changed last century for unknown reasons to homosexuals. In a flash back in 1946, every gay person was a pedophile all of a sudden. Which is a sick and wrong view of gay people, but that’s exactly many view gay people now.

These days, ask any veteran of a recent war about the Middle East and how that exact culture still exists in many areas, yes it is unusual for a boy to get past puberty not having been molested by a man. That is the culture there. That was the culture 20+ centuries ago and has not changed.

That is the context of what Paul wrote about Romans, Corinth, etc. And likewise in the Old Testament that is the culture was that was there a thousand years before Christ ever walked on earth.  Given that we can see this culture 20+ centuries later, there’s no excuse for pastors and preachers to be preaching false, graceless interpretations of God’s Word.

God doesn’t give a crap about gay marriage, or any of that. He cares about human hearts. He cares about young boys being molested by men (Romans 1:27), he cares about young girls being also molested by church leaders and men and even older women of course. That’s why it’s in the Bible. We are to protect the children.

I wish people would read the Bible it in the proper context, not just the context of King James and newer.

Jesus came to free us from the system we are in, not put us in another one.

Tragically, they’ll preach this false doctrine of legalism from the pulpit anyway.  They will claim an evil agenda is out to devour people and make them gay. They’ll insist and thus continue blabbering on and on about how bad being gay is, while the few young gay kids in attendance at their services are inching towards deeper depression and suicide attempts because they are shamed into not talking about who they really are.  And this is OK with you because you believe “God can heal you of your sin of being gay!” Which doesn’t happen. How quickly they have forgotten Exodus International.

To these closed-hearted preachers and pastors, the death of an LGBT kid is greater than having an LGBT person in your congregation. The proof: there is no celebration of a gay person’s passing in one of these churches.

The third leg of their personal trinity is politics.  By aligning themselves with a political movement, they now have power nationally to continue their proven-false views of scripture, all while hurting others in the process.  They can look at other preachers down the street pointing to Romans 1:27 as “truth” and yell it from their pulpits in confidence they are “right” and any other viewpoint is “wrong”.  Thus, they set themselves up as the “humble voices for God in a rotting culture”.  Ugggh!

See, they are right and you are wrong!  Trust in them, they have all the answers!

Not happening.

It would be laughable if so many people weren’t so emotionally hurt by their off-base finite views being sold as truth.

This Toxic Trinity is like a modern day plague, young whipper-snappers flying out of Seminary school ready to take on Satan in the world, fired up for the Lord but must follow the corporate line of their denomination. By the time they are in their early 40’s they are worn down, they don’t believe in all the legalistic, denominational junk they were taught in school as real life and God Himself has proven to them that much of the other two legs of their Toxic Trinity is worthless.

Those that still find value in the two worthless legs of their Toxic Trinity continue on their Jaded Jesus Journey from the pulpit and the ballot box using fear in their congregations against LGBT folks at any cost.

The economy? Not as important as keeping gay people from marrying.

Abortion?  Not as important as keeping transgender people out of bathrooms.

National security? Not as important as making sure disastrous conversion therapy is law.

Keeping government small?  Not as important as being vindictive to political opponents.

I’m convinced a majority of Christian preachers and pastors do not know the true, non-filtered, Bible themselves in regards to these key issues of our time. They only know the legalistic interpretations that match the political power grab of 2016. The plaque on their office wall showing their doctorate degree in theology is more important than loving people like Jesus did. And true interpretation of God’s Word and loving others is cut off in the name of politics and being “right” about the issues of our time. Mix all this with politics and we now have the Toxic Trinity owning a plank of the GOP.

The real moral decay is happening in the selling out of the Republican party to a powerful faction of the GOP of those who claim to be “right”.

The one person who is “right”?  History is showing us that his name is Barry Goldwater.


Dear Christian, you’re offended at a flag but not offended at all the killings around you?

Dear offended Christian,

You are again easily offended by something else someone else is doing. This time, your county raised the rainbow flag in honor of the massacre victims in your state.  You called it a “divisive, politically-charged symbol”.  That this rainbow flag “might create an uncomfortable workplace environment for many of his employees”. And “the presence of the flag was “nearly unbearable” for her to pass on her way to work”.

A flag honoring dozens dead in your state is unbearable?  You have a rough life.

this article:
LGBT pride flag raised after Orlando shooting ‘unbearable’ for Christian employee, Hillsborough commissioner says

Jesus died on the cross for all of us.  All. Romans chapters 2 thru 5 outline this in no uncertain detail.  There is no asterisk next to the all that says that Christians who believe in Him are saved.You are placing an asterisk next to the all in those chapters in Romans. You are saying that the LGBT people who are dead in this tragedy are against your “strong Christian beliefs” and that they are not worthy of your respect even as fellow American citizens in this time of mourning.

What I find uncomfortable is these people’s lack of caring for dead fellow Americans. No respect for them in life nor death, no honor, no caring….no love.

Only thinking of your poor self as you get to walk past that flag on your way to work in the morning.

You have a rough life.

You do realize they’re dead, right?  They can’t walk past any flags at all anymore. They’re not even breathing.

You realize they’re dead, right?  They can’t attend church anymore, go home for Thanksgiving, kiss their kids goodnight nor visit their parents anymore.

You realize they’re dead, right?  Or do you even care?

Well, it’s good that you don’t care too much about them.  I mean, why bother with the icky LGBT folks because they are all going to hell anyway!

Whew! What a relief this must be for you!  It’s a good thing for you is that they are indeed dead and gone.  Well almost gone, just that “Pride” flag that is soooo annoying to you.

You have a rough life indeed.

They no longer have to bother you in your life anymore. Just let this flag issue blow over and you’re home free not to have to worry about pride flags, dozens dead and wounded and thousands of other innocent deaths as well. Your “strong Christian beliefs” allow you to push aside all these pesky LBGT deaths so you can walk into your workplace each morning without being bothered by these heathen sinners.

Wait, thousands of other innocent deaths?  What ‘other deaths’? I’m sure you’re just as adamant at all the abortions taking place in your county. I’m sure you are equally as vocal about the thousands of aborted babies in your area every year. I’m sure you worked with your superiors to complain about the lack of caring for the most innocent among us, the babies in the womb. I’m sure you took it upon yourself to see that this societal ill is cured.

Of course you didn’t.

But those unborn babies?  Yes, they’re dead too, you don’t have to worry about them anymore.  You can go on your way and enjoy your life while all these innocent lives are dead…innocent lives that were killed in the womb, and innocent lives that were killed in a night club.  You can walk past that flag remembering it’s “just another” 49 dead that you turn a blind eye to. After all, what’s another 49 dead when you’ve ignored countless thousands of innocent babies killed in the womb?

Don’t worry, they’re all dead.  They won’t bother you nor your “strong Christian beliefs” anymore.



Suddenly, there is LGBT equality, but only in death

How does a LGBT Christian engage in conversation with a fellow Christian who is a conservative evangelical that only sees life as valid from their point of view? (I don’t lump all conservative evangelicals into this group, not by a long shot. Thus the understanding that the ones who insist that their way is the only ordained way are the ones I’m referring to here)

It goes a lot like this:

Conservative evangelical: gays are demanding people that constantly demand more rights.

LGBT Christian: we are kicked out of churches and workplaces for being honest about who we are.

Conservative evangelical: you are taking away our religious freedoms!

LGBT Christian: you mean it’s your religious freedom to kick gay people out of your churches and job sites?

Conservative evangelical: thus sayeth the Lord you are abominations into the Lord and are doomed to hell.

LGBT Christian: can you answer my question?

Conservative evangelical: you are infringing on my religious rights!

LGBT Christian: you didn’t answer my question…

Conservative evangelical: we don’t have to answer to your evil LGBT agenda!

Then the Orlando massacre happens…

Conservative evangelical: We will pray for you, this is a massacre of every American, we all are sad at the loss of life and are united together to pray.

LGBT Christian: only now you acknowledge we are equal Americans?…we’re only equal to you in death but not in life? why are you praying for those who you have long insisted LGBT people are going to hell?


So gay and transgender people are only treated equal in death but not in life by many conservatives/evangelical types. It’s so strange to watch this unfold as the sun sets on the first day of watching the TV news and social media sites.

What these anti-LGBT leaders and their followers are doing is unknowingly offering them mercy and grace. The same complete mercy and grace Jesus offered us at the cross if we believe in him. All who believe are saved as outlined in Romans chapters 2 thru chapter 5. Not most, ALL.

Welcome to New Covenant grace, evangelical conservative Christians. We’ve been waiting for you.

Now please treat us equally in life, not just in death.

The Real LGBT Agenda

After more than six years on his Facebook page, Dr. Michael Brown has blocked me from posting there. I’ve asked many substantive questions yet have received zero substantive responses from Mr Brown. Sorry, “read this link” or “buy my book” isn’t considered substantive for a discussion.

Just look at Dr. Michael Brown’s Facebook page (“AskDrBrown”) on any given day lately. His near daily rants about trans people, gay people, the “nasty LGBT agenda”…but yet I don’t see people coming to Christ through any of his Facebook page posts. It’s all hot air blather. Read the comments section on any of his posts…vile, misguided hatred masquerading as truth only ostracizes people even further from solid discussion.

During the course of conversations there I would often preface my position on an issue as a “Christian transgender woman”.  And of course many followers of his there would come back and say that’s not possible. Shouting at me cherry picked Bible verses to allegedly prove their point. What they did prove instead, was how good they were at cutting and pasting irrelevant bible verses to a discussion.

Just yesterday, he posted yet another anti-LGBT piece, one of several this past week, this time a poem.  Here is a portion:

Lesbian greats long neglected
Well known gays just now detected.

Some, perhaps, were man-boy lovers;
We’ll keep that stuff under the covers.

GLSEN* will fill in for Granny
And help kids find their inner-trannie.

Those born in a body that’s wrong
Will hear of sex-change before long.

The rest of his poem is here. Click if you dare allow your blood rise to a full boiling point, read the rest of his anti-LGBT ‘poetry’ at this link.  Copy and paste this link, I refuse to directly link it from this page:

Pius drivel like this is why people don’t want to go back to church. He is constantly barraging LGBT people as if we are his personal political and religious piñata. The same goes for other people such as Franklin Graham, Southern Baptist convention higher up Russell Moore, the Benham family, John Piper, etc. Read their diatribes on LGBT folks…filled with legalism but void of true love. Yet they claim they are “being loving” by telling us the “truth”.

Umm, no. That’s not how it works.  That’s not how the red words work. That’s not how Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross works.

People like those preacher men make it very hard to not just preach the true gospel, but to actually live it and show it. When those that do show the true gospel from the heart meets someone who’s doctrine is from these men and their institutions, they are put down by this camp as being “too grace like and not enough law”. They demand the results must look like and feel like what they consider to be proper Gospel.

As if the theological doctorate certificates hanging on the wall of these men wall one-up God’s Spirit at anytime.

Proper gospel is what comes from the heart and is a result of God flowing inside of someone’s soul. That’s the “love one another” part of things. That’s how the Holy Spirit moves mightily!

But His Spirit cannot move when men insist it must look like, and must fit into, a certain way of thinking or being. Such as what those aforementioned men and their systems consider only what’s proper in their finite eyes.

Yet these stalwarts of church piety keep talking down to the LGBT folks. And they are losing them in droves.  Creating the “us vs them” LGBT agenda, as they say, that they love to talk about and claim to be constant victim of at every turn.  They consider themselves to be “right” on doctrinal interpretation.  All while shunning the hearts of LGBT believers who will never come back to church because of their proper doctrine, ever.

Why is the victim-first mentality alive and well in religion-mixed-with-politics circles?  Is that part of the fear that helps them sell their brand? But I digress…

While they keep being “right” in their view of doctrine, these people who have been put out are hurting much more. They are walking away from God because you hurt them in the name of proper doctrine.  You alone are responsible for them walking away from God due solely to your insistence on being “right”. It stands to reason that these men and systems in for a rude awakening once they stand in front of God for pushing people away from Him:


Yes there is a greater agenda against LGBT people, is a terrible agenda, it comes from the pulpit and the politicians that are attached to those pulpits in America. It is called “dispose of the LGBT. This sexually immoral group of fornicators is our enemy and we need to remove them. They could never be considered Americans even if they serve this country in the military.”

That is the LGBT agenda. In other words, the LGBT agenda to exterminate, dispose of, ignore, separate from society, cast out, and put down everyone who find themselves with an LGB or T in front of their name. By use of cherry picked gospel verse…out of context bible verses… to “prove” their point.

Jesus did not shout bible verses at people, only the Pharisees, the separatists, who refused to believe in Him, who’s goal was to maintain power in law.

Another word for Pharisees is separatists or separated ones.

Separating and dividing.  This is exactly what’s going on here in our country in these days, in our churches and in our politics, especially with these men leading the way.

The real LGBT agenda is to also separate the LGBT people as a permanent, banned-from-church second class political whipping post. All while blaming it on anything but themselves for creating this unGod-like separation among His people in our land. It allows these stoic institutions to keep throwing verbal stones at those they consider to be “abominations until the Lord” while they keep their sins hidden in the system of a given church religion. That’s precisely what Jesus came to save us from, the religious system. But that tragically is exactly what we have today across our country.

That is the LGBT agenda, separating one American against another for the sake of religious and political power. You men and institutions are not the victims of this agenda, quite the opposite…you are the willing players to see that it continues using fear as the weapon of division.

It’s horrific.  I pray this changes towards the heart of God and changes quickly.


-Monica Jean


(photo credit to Zac Poonen from his book Fifty Marks of Pharisees)


Why do “those people” need to march in a Pride parade?

“Why do those people need to march in the streets? Why do they call it Pride?…After all they are sinning, there’s no pride in sinning! Why do they need to do these things?”

I had those questions in the distant past, and saw them pop up by conservative friends recently. It’s taken me a long time to answer those questions.

I attended my first Pride event last year. I noticed no hedonism, no debauchery, no licentious sex, none of that Sodom and Gomorrah that many insist happens at these events. It was just a fun time with people from my church and I ran into a few friends during the day. This is a very low-key event but it was just fun and relaxing.

It occurred to me as we start this celebration of Pride month in June, exactly why LGBT folks want to have a pride parade or even a pride gathering.

Every LGBT person that shows up for Pride has a lot in common.

Such as…

A high percentage of us have been kicked out of our churches for being honest about who we are. Some have been kicked out of our homes.

Nearly all of us has received some sort of harassment verbally or physically, especially when coming out.

Many in this group of LGBT people have given up on religion altogether because they’ve been treated like dirt at their churches solely for being honest, oh the irony. This is something Jesus would never do, but too many institutional churches are happy to kick someone to the curb who doesn’t fit within their often-cliquish social constructs.

The pain of being kicked to the curb runs deep. Our social circles are often inside that church that cast us out.  God doesn’t insist this occur, only people who claim to know about God insist the gay or transgender person be cast aside.

Who shall we then convene with? Who shall we trust to hang out with? People that are just like us, other LGBT folks.  A safe place to convene without harassment.

There it is, the answer. It’s quite simple, Pride is a safe place to hang out for a day or two so we can just be ourselves.

Pride is a safe place, an oasis from the daily pain we bear from being told we are abominations, aberrations, backsliders, perverts, rejection from churches, unworthy of Jesus’ salvation…An oasis from being told from  family and friends that have disowned us that we are going to spend “eternity in hell”…those same people no longer talk with us.  It’s a safe place to gather so we can forget that some of us had jobs that we were pushed out of because of who we are.

Being honest with fellow man has cost us dearly.

We are not abominations or aberrations, we are people too, many with deep faith in God.

All that Pride means is a safe place to convene with others just like us who are honest about ourselves. God is proud of you and me.

Since many churches won’t offer a refuge for those who are honest about their gender and sexuality, is making our own safe place such a bad thing?

I think not.


-Monica Jean Maday

Why I’m not voting for a Republican candidate for the first time in my life this year

This is how my party left me, I did not leave it.

A bit of recent history is in order…

As a conservative/libertarian, “conservatarian”, my core values center around the following original Tea Party values & principles in early 2009:

– Reduced size of the government
– Balanced budgets & limited/zero debt
– True freedom of religion
– Truth in politics

That was known as the Tea Party version 1.0. A mix of any Democrat, Republicans, Independents…Americans coming together in unision saying “hold the elected officials responsible for their actions”.

Both party establishments knew this would be bad for their parties. It had to be, a grass roots movement that doesn’t claim an R or D before it that has overwhelming response AND asks politicians be accountable can’t be good in a runaway spending environment.

So the Tea Party, now version 2.0, is a known as a dissolved, deflated version of it’s original self as a faction of the hard core conservative area of the political spectrum. They parrot ideas to social media, not anything like 2009.

Sigh. So much for holding politicians responsible for spending our money. And our kid’s money.

As a conservative and Christian, truth is front & center of any belief or event. I have always believed that. And when I see my Republican party cut the ropes of it’s moorings time & time again, disillusionment of the establishment GOP becomes a real thing.

Reduced size of government?
Balanced budgets & limited/zero debt?
What the GOP candidates say, vs what they do.

Bush 41 Said: “Read my lips, no new taxes”
Bush 41 Did: Raised taxes.

Bush 43 Said: “New tone”
Bush 43 Did: The “New tone” expanded spending tremendously. Bailed out banks.

John Boehner: Backed down against expansion of government.
Paul Ryan: Same.

Trump isn’t Republican. He’s a Democrat with a few libertarian ideas. No thanks Donald.

Ted Cruz Said: When asked, will you bail out the banks?” Said: “NO!”
Ted Cruz Did: His wife was a top exec for the largest bank in the USA. His retirement loans are also held at the same bank. One of his top 5 campaign donors? That same bank. Of course he will bail out banks, they own him.

Rush Limbaugh taught me to always “follow the money”…And that I’m doing…and finding smoke and mirrors, just like every other candidate this election cycle. Sorry Cruz, you’re just another GOP establishment R and our country doesn’t need that.

We don’t need promises on reduced abortion. We’ve been told that for 40 years. Yet not a single republican has done anything in the Executive branch that would actually remove 80%+ of the non-necessary abortions in this country. Pulling funding from Planned Parenthood won’t provide a true solution, that was a political move. Standing up for right for people to live their life will.

NOTHING. The establishment doesn’t want to touch abortion, even though it’s candidates parrot the same promises year after year of wanting to address the issue. Millions have died because no one is acting to truly do anything for the ‘least of these’.
True Freedom of Religion?
True freedom, as the authors of the Constitution intended. Where you live your religion, without infringing on others. Simple stuff.

What do we have today in the GOP that’s considered righteous and God-like? A Kim Davis brand of ‘freedom of religion’ that is far from what the original framers of our country envisioned. You have freedom as long as it places you as victim, that no one else can encroach on your ‘freedoms’.

Not handing out marriage licenses is not a freedom of religion, it’s a personal decision to not hand out marriage licenses. If you don’t want to do that, fine, step aside. That’s it. It’s your job to hand out the marriage license, so do it. If you agree to make a cake for a wedding, make the best cake and be the best example of Jesus’ love and spirit you can when you deliver the cake to their wedding. That’s religious freedom. That’s faith and responsibility.

Instead we see a continual stream of victim-first Christians folks (I know, I was one of these for a long time) who claim their God is the God of the universe and is all powerful yet is so mixed in with politics from Focus on the Family, Liberty Counsel, Alliance of Defending Freedom, Family Research Counsel…all willing to spill lies and half-truths (which are lies) about social issues, especially LGBT folks. After all, there are many LGBT conservative folks like myself. I don’t appreciate lies being touted as truth.

Such as two bills currently on the Tennessee house today: one bill to force transgender kids to use the restroom of their birth genitals and the other to say clergy-only are allowed to marry anyone in the state of Tennessee.

Let’s not forget a third bill which will lead to even higher death rate of LGBT kids that’s being voted on this week as well here in TN.

All three bills backed by the same GOP who are against LGBT folks, even conservative LGBT folks. All in the name of being moral and God-like. REALLY? GOP: you do realize you’re pushing people out of your own party, right?

As a mostly conservative, devoutly Christian, transgender woman, I can tell you first hand how these bills will drive young kids far from your party.  And the anti-bathroom bill?  It will drive kids to suicide. Yes, suicide.  You know not the abysmal struggle we face, yet you’ll never meet with any of them, you’ll stay in your ivory towers, insulated from their real lives.  By adding pressure by fiat from adults they’ve never met but are running their lives, you’re only making it more dark and dismal for them.  Will you take the time to understand this?  I have a feeling you’ll only listen to those who pay your campaigns money, not the young ones who are just trying to make it through life with a minimal amount of bullying.

GOP: If you’re truly pro-life, that includes the lives of LBGT folks too (hey, we’re Americans as well!), you won’t vote for these bills.

To the GOP policay makers…life is precious, whether it’s an unborn baby that you won’t stand up for in any substantive, truly-changing way, or whether LGBT kids will be pushed into the dark corner of suicide from bullying and conversion/reparative therapy.

Heck, at least you’re consistent in being “pro-life”… because more deaths happen while hiding behind the pro-life label than not. Congrats!
WHEN DID MY PARTY TURN INTO BATHROOM COPS? We are under tremendous debt, immigration policy is a laughing stock, have no party head in this election yet we are so concerned about where kids take a pee?

That is why I’m not voting Republican this election. I can no longer tell the difference between a vicious, demeaning politician from many preachers who claim that if you “vote for candidate X you’ll go to hell”.

This is what the original writers of our Constitution warned us about…not mixing state with a state-sanctioned religion. We have this now, it’s so-called evangelical religion glued to politicians who think they have been appointed by God to make policy.

Nowhere is this more evident than Lebanon, TN with Mark Pody (R) “I believe I’m supposed to be speaking to the unsaved, to the people that are performing same-sex marriages, to the people involved in same-sex marriage, it is wicked, it is wrong and I am doing the best I can to warn them.”

God of course didn’t tell him that, but he’s unable to tell the difference between true freedom of religion and what passes as religious freedom these days.

Truth in Politics?
The GOP has drifted far out to sea away from it’s core, underlying beliefs that are best for everyone…those are the Tea Party v1.0 core beliefs. Tragically for the USA, the GOP is no longer a party filled with truth, it’s a party filled with ideology dressed in the drag of truth. They look pretty, but they devour our tax dollars as fast as the Democrats after the election is ovoer. A wolf in sheep’s clothing the GPO now is. The party has not provided and true action actually doing something about removing our debt. No true action on abortion in 4 decades. No reduction of government’s size and encroachment on every American.

I can’t tell the difference between Democrats and Republicans now. Except that Republicans do things “in the name of God”. (A fear-based, politically motivated God? Don’t think so!) Ugghhh.

No longer do I find much truth in the Republican party.  Smoke & mirrors sold as “pro-American!” and “pro-God!”.  Sell all you want, you don’t come through after the election.  All talk, and more big government. 🙁

That’s why I voted for the last true Conservatarian, the last true guy who fired up the US economy, who reduced taxes, was imperfect, but did a service to all Americans by being in office, not disservice.

In the primary election this past month, I wrote in this statesman and true American who believed in all Americans, not just ones who gave money to him: Ronald Reagan.

He was the last candidate the GOP gave us that was worth voting for. Call it a protest vote, but I can’t bring myself to vote for any of these characters.  I’ll vote Reagan him again in the general elections as there are no candidates who stand for these principles in 2016.

We’ve been told many things…but one of those things wasn’t the true love of Jesus

Why is this thing called “Conversion Therapy” such a big deal?

(these are thoughts mulling around in my head for a long time…years…and listening to “Saving Alex” solidified much of them, thank you Alex!)

What is Conversion Therapy?  It’s sending your kid away to be cured from being gay/trans.  Or having the local church “fix” the person.  Demanding conformity to a system as proof of change, and saying God said so.

We’ve been told this is God’s way of dealing with your heinous sin.

We’ve been told that God approves of such barbaric conversion therapy methods to ‘fix’ kids from being gay. Because:

We’ve been told that if you’re gay/trans, you can’t go to heaven until you repent and turn from their sin.

We’ve been told for a few generations that a trans person is delusional and needs psychiatric help.  We’ve been told that the LBGT agenda  is out to ruin marriage and this country.

We’ve been told that “go and sin no more” is the ultimate litmus test for a Christian to be free of sin.

We’ve been told many things that are now shown to be completely false, including all of those mentioned above.   Yet too many believe these things wholeheartedly, and with such a passionate zeal you wonder if they believe the same God as others.  And mix it into the current political climate, and those who still believe in these falsehoods, and it becomes a toxic force to behold. Who can stand in the way of God?…or can stand in the way of men who claim to have God’s best interest at heart as they ostracize and politicize a minority of this country for the sake of “righteous vengeance”?

Who gave them the scales?

God, they’ll claim.

LGBT kids who are rejected by their parents have a much higher rate of drug use and suicide attempts. Why?  LGBT kids need your love and acceptance.  That’s it.  Nothing else.  While many parents  struggle with watching their own dreams come crashing down when a kid comes out as gay/trans, your true parental, God-like full-acceptance love will show them  the best example of Jesus there is anywhere on earth.

Attempting to fix them or cast them away leads to the higher suicide rates and much higher drug use.

“But what if our kid can be fixed?”  Such an alluring question for parents as it means their lives won’t be turned upside down, they needn’t be challenged in their peer circles or at church, the pastor will easily approve of methods because “God says so”…and on it goes to make the comfort of the parent first and foremost.  That’s the problem, the parent comes first, the kids are demanded to fit in to their perception of life.  And the kid suffers mightily.

That’s toxic.

That’s wrong.

And for a long time I believed all that stuff too.

I thought I needed to follow suit, to conform, to be fixed.  I knew nothing else.  And I fully accepted it.  Until all this gender stuff popped up.  The only choice I had was to live or kill myself.  That’s it.  There’s no other choice.  I haven’t been lied to by a liberal agenda, no liberal kool-aid was consumed, etc…the only choice is to live.  If I hadn’t have chosen life, many of you would never have known me.  And many would have wondered why Mike offed himself as my memory would have quickly faded, just like the bottles of Vodka I used to consume to fend-off the abysmal emotional hell I lived in.

But I would have taken my secret to the grave!  How awesome is that!  No challenging others to look beyond the ironclad gates of religious doctrine for greater understanding in God!  There wouldn’t be a need to love any deeper, only wonder “Bless his dead heart, why did he do that?” as they go about their merry, legalistic ways.

They wouldn’t have had to concern themselves about how to handle an LGBT person in their midst because I would have been pushing daisies.  The conformity-based systems including guilt, shame and religious performance, and conversion therapy push people into suicide and drug use because we can not change who we are at the core. But these sub-systems are best because “God” would want it that way.  Or so we’ve been told. Because conforming to the system of expectations is more important than life!….that’s essentially what we’ve been told as well.

I chose life, outside the box of religious expectations.  I knew I’d be made fun of, talked down to, berated, ridiculed because of my “decision”.  But thankfully only a handful of people took the scales and held them against me, ignoring my testimony and replacing their demands for conformity.

But most people have been either “meh, whatevz” or cheerful supporters.

People: don’t think of GSA or PFLAG as the enemy.  They’re not.  ISIS is our enemy.  Lying politicians placing us further into debt is our enemy.  Kids who say “I’m gay/trans” and parents that support them are NOT the enemy!  How hard is this?  Don’t try to forcibly fix them!  They cannot be fixed.  You didn’t fail as a parent, you only need to be an example of Jesus love to them and steer them as they travel thru life just as you would if they were straight.   They chose to be gay as much as you chose to be stratight.

You know what the GSA or PFLAG is?  A place for people of like-souls to get together and just be, in safety.  It’s no more complex than that.

If the KKK has constitutional right to congregate, why are people opposed to people to GSA or PFLAG groups congregating?  Because you believe God said so?  Because you believe that they are the enemy? Really?  REALLY?

Stop treating fellow Americans like dirt, when they have the scarlet letter L,G,B,or T branded onto them.  No matter what you think, they will indeed be standing next to you in heaven because they believe in the same Jesus you do. They will be fighting on the same battlefields as you.  They will be fighting to pay their bills just like you.

But they can’t do that if they’ve been leaning on drugs or standing on the razor’s edge of suicide because you removed your love for them.  They will spend years attempting to get over conversion therapy, most come out the other side of such conversion places worse than when they went in.  Read Alex’s book, she attempted suicide.

Jesus never treated his children like that. Ever.  What gives you the scales to be pretentious and go against the deep lessons Jesus illustrated in the red words?

red letters
They need your love, not your doctrine, nor your fears of how your church body will react.  They deeply desire to be loved for they are in your presence…just like we desire the same with God.  Don’t subject your kids to anything less.

Just remember, they won’t be living the American dream by definition, but nearly every LGBT person I’ve ever met, Democrat or Republican, fully supports you living yours.

Don’t interfere with them living their lives.  It works both ways.

In Him,
Monica Jean